Toasts ? so many things can go right, and so many things can go wrong! If you?re worried about how things will turn out when people who are slightly intoxicated start broadcasting their thoughts to a crowd, take heart; here are some things to consider on the subject of speeches and toasts.

? Amazingly enough, there are professional speech-writing services available to craft a speech if the speaker isn?t comfortable with the responsibility of writing his own. Realizing that speech-writing isn?t something that necessarily everyone can do is a helpful first step towards ending up with a quality toast.

? Depending upon whether or not your reception is inside or outside, or whether the crowd of guests is large or small, it may make sense for your speechmakers to use a microphone. The wedding DJ is typically happy to loan out one of his for just this occasion.

? Try to allow for the person who?s talking to be visible to the entire gathering of guests. A more meaningful emotional impact is made when the listeners can see as well as hear the individual who is making the toast.

? Whatever toasting order you prefer or have worked out, make sure that it?s been communicated to all parties involved so there?s no confusion about who needs to speak and when.

? During the actual speech or toast, start by standing up (and fittingly, sit down when you?re done). After you?ve prepared something (no winging it, even if you think you can. You never know when your brain will pick a moment to shut down when it?s time for a public-speaking opportunity), address the person you?re toasting by name. Let the other guests know how you?re related, and then follow-up with (hopefully witty) thoughts that are in good taste. Speak clearly, avoid dragging things out unnecessarily, and end by saying something vivacious like ?cheers!? Take seriously your brief moment in the spotlight ? the bride won?t be happy if you say something embarrassing that leaves the entire crowd awkwardly staring at their wedding favors.

It?s very important to remember that weddings are supposed to be a fun and special day for everyone involved from the bride and groom to the guests!

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